The idea was to get a horse that I could continue to grow and develop with, to keep pushing the boundaries of my own education, and to continue gaining experience in the sport of eventing.
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i think opal loves her too <3 |
And Doozy is all these things! Granted, she’s less quiet overall in temperament than I expected based on my first meeting her. But she is still absolutely the horse I thought she was. I can watch
this video again today and see the qualities that originally drew me to her: namely, her strong desire to connect with the people (and dogs lol) around her, her overall style of movement, and general forward thinking and interactive nature.
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omg could it be?? our first ride **outside** in MONTHS??? |
So far, our journey together has been basically exactly what I’d hoped for in terms of getting back into competing. The mare loves to jump and seems particularly well suited to eventing. Obviously the dressage comes a little less easily given her natural tendencies toward tension and hollowness, but even so, it still feels like we’re advancing and making progress and that’s basically all I ask haha.
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we both just adore this ring |
I still think about contingencies, tho, especially after such a rough January with the mare’s presumed hoof bruise and subsequent slow recovery. Doozy had some straight up wild and unhinged rides trying to get going again after that time off. For better or worse, she is NOT going to be the “same horse” after a break.
In fact, I wrote this past summer that the best way to think about her is along the lines of, whatever she was yesterday, she’s a little more that way today. And even more tomorrow. Meaning, if yesterday you had an “ok” ride in that it happened and nobody died, then today maybe your ride might be ‘actually not bad!,’ and tomorrow the mare might be legitimately lovely.
It cuts both ways, tho. If the mare had yesterday off, then today she might be feeling quite pleased with her liberty, and by tomorrow might be borderline feral.
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spent some time picking up all the standards that blew over in recent wind. left all the pole piles for next time tho |
For a lot of folks, depending on how horses fit into the overall balance of your lives, this can pose real challenges for consistently enjoying a predictable horsey experience when other priorities in life keep us away from the barn. This has proven true for me too — whether it be bc one of my (favorite, but still) colleagues keeps selling me into projects that require more frequent travel… Or ya know, bc Doozy was lame.
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pretty sure doozy was happy to be out again |
The lameness itself was particularly concerning. Charlie, may he be resting in wonderful horsey heaven, was always a fragile sort of dude. The King of the Dings. We were always dealing with random stints of time off or rebuilding. But he WAS the same horse no matter what. Mr. Reliability. And by the end of his riding career, I’d found all sorts of ways to manage around his fragility while still enjoying fun adventures together.
That’s…. not quite the case with Doozy. Doozy is straight up not currently of a temperament and disposition to be fragile lol. She needs ridden. Consistently, every day, and occasionally with some degree of exertion. Like I am NOT a “wet saddle pads” kind of horse trainer, but Doozy does best when she’s had a chance to move out.
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she likes spying on all the distant fields |
Ideally at some point she’ll grow up a bit more and be more “confirmed” in her training that I could imagine her in a broader variety of riding jobs with different types of riders. Bc let’s be real, if she ended up not being suitable for *me,* it’s not exactly likely that somebody with
greater skills or aspirations than me would swoop in to snatch her up, ya know?
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oooh we had company too |
Tho ya know… obviously at this point it’s all just academic navel gazing anyway. Sure, the mare challenges me and is a handful, but as long as she’s sound for the task I’m
so excited for the future with her and have exactly zero hopes of needing to actually
execute on any alternative contingencies.
She might not be suited for much else, but she’s *exactly right* for the job as my eventing & adventuring & go everywhere & do everything horse lol.
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she’s adarlyn <3 |
Topics like this are interesting to me, tho. Suitability in general is such a huge topic, there are so many variables that can go into it — with massively different emphasis or prioritization depending on your own personal preferences. Like, for some folks, having a horse that can reasonably cope with a more sporadic schedule is a must.
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good mare |
For a lot of folks I know, actually probably most, any ‘performance potential’ in the horse is absolutely secondary (or tertiary) to disposition and temperament. The vast majority of horse enthusiasts I’ve known over the years are riding within the realm of 3’ jumping or 1st / 2nd level dressage — activities most sound + reasonably built horses can accomplish easily.
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So it’s all the
other qualities of the horse that grow in importance. Do I like spending time with the horse? Is the horse pleasant to be around, do I feel safe handling it? Riding it? Does our time together bring joy more often than frustration? Am I able to do the sorts of things I *want* to be doing with the horse, or is there an obstacle related to the horse itself that’s stopping me?
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spring is coming! |
For me, personally, my answers to these questions might be fluid and change over time. What I want in a horse today might not be the same as in 5 years, or 10. And ya know… As was true with Charlie, sometimes we adapt and evolve with our horses’ changing abilities over time too.
There are so many ways to derive joy and fulfillment from a horsey lifestyle, ya know? Tho at least for me, at this moment in my life, I’m still really eager to get that saddle time every day — to be working toward competition goals that involve running and jumping lol. And so far, Doozy seems to be all aboard with that objective.
Here’s hoping for more of the same in the year to come!
I agree that suitability is a huge issue. It can really affect our enjoyment of the horse and in turn the horse's welfare. And I think your questions are spot on " Do I like spending time with the horse? Is the horse pleasant to be around, do I feel safe handling it? Riding it? Does our time together bring joy more often than frustration?" Great post.
ReplyDeleteOhhh man, this is an excellent post. I have examined Pyro's suitability for me MANY times over the past almost-6 years. I bred his momma specifically to make my next sport horse, an all-arounder who was athletic and game enough to dabble in all the fun, low-level disciplines I enjoy for many years to come... with sturdier feet and hopefully less pink sunburn-able skin than Missy. There have been times when the answers to "Do I like spending time with the horse? Is the horse pleasant to be around, do I feel safe handling it? Riding it? Does our time together bring joy more often than frustration?" have been a resounding "NO", and I've considered how I could develop him to be marketable. However, some of that was set up by the situation he was being boarded in as a baby (under 2 years old he was allowed to walk all over people regularly when I wasn't present, and as the barn was a 45 minute drive away... that was often), my own lack of knowledge and experience with horses of his type of bold personality (which I've been working hard to remedy), and the challenges that come with a young gelding growing and maturing into a solid citizen. I'm happy to report that while I STILL have to deal with him occasionally trying to be pushy or disrespecting my space, we ARE building trust in one another. I DO enjoy being around him and feel safe handling him. He DOES (mostly) bring me joy. I had to let go of the subconscious desire for our relationship to be a copy of what I have with Missy, as he's a completely different horse. I didn't think I'd enjoy a playful gelding with a big ego after my very serious mare, but he has taught me to bring more laughter and play into our "work". As we continue to build our mutual trust and respect, I think he'll end up being exactly what I bred for... even if that looks different than what I anticipated. He very much see's me as "his person", and I'm (finally) looking forward to a future with him as my horse.
ReplyDeleteSuitability is such an interesting topic. In many ways, Carmen was not a suitable horse for me when I got her (hindsight being 20/20) in many ways. But she made me a better rider and horse person and now we’re quite well suited. Even if I threaten to sell her $10 some days. I also wonder if I had gotten the help I needed initially if we’d have flailed for so long. Who knows? Not me.
ReplyDeleteI do know that she’s not going anywhere and I’m still excited for where we’ll go.
I love this topic. Great points across the board. And I'm so glad Dooz continues to be exactly what you wanted her to be, even with the occasional semi-feral winter moments.
ReplyDeleteWhat a thoughtful post! And I agree, our list of must haves evolves along with us. I was pondering the other day which horse I would keep if for some reason I had to downsize (I'm not, don't worry!). And you know who I picked? Shiny. Because she can do literally anything or nothing at all and be perfectly content either way.
ReplyDeleteI think you and Doozy have lots to accomplish together, and you're doing a wonderful job learning with her.
Very interesting post to me, since, as you know, I've had several horses enter and exit my life on my (unknowing) quest to find Butterball. I think you've done a fantastic job with Doozy even though she was/is distinctly less quiet than initially suspected. That personality piece is SOOOOO important, and TBH, most of the reason why I don't have Goggles anymore but still have Ben.
ReplyDeleteLove this. I've been grappling with suitability myself with my kiddos. (At some point I need to write a blog post again... Things. Things are going on. Slowly.)
ReplyDeleteI'm not sure how I missed that you lost Charlie, but I just went all the way back in your blog to find those posts, and I'm so sorry for your loss! =-(
ReplyDeleteI think you have done a great job with Dozy, and totally agree on many of your points!