tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post5854129776125388305..comments2024-03-29T03:40:51.461-07:00Comments on 'Fraidy Cat Eventing: first grade: a jumping lessonemmahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05686949099663199382noreply@blogger.comBlogger49125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-4704691122097168602017-04-06T08:09:59.227-07:002017-04-06T08:09:59.227-07:00I'm always afraid of messing up. On the horse ...I'm always afraid of messing up. On the horse I'm leasing I'm basically like "Ok if I ride on my own I can only do stretchy trot" because it is the only thing I am confident at and I don't want to mess her upMicaylahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09799043647759779897noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-77208950191880852082017-04-03T14:54:15.395-07:002017-04-03T14:54:15.395-07:00I always always get apprehensive before my jump le...I always always get apprehensive before my jump lessons - let's chalk it up to always showing amateur horses over them. I also psych myself out. Remembering to breathe always helps? And my trainer once had a girl sing out loud during her entire course just so she would stop overthinking the tiny jumps - it was hilarious and also worked!roothhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09670446457829193892noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-86682633891129969282017-03-31T08:37:31.550-07:002017-03-31T08:37:31.550-07:00Aww shucks you guys :)Aww shucks you guys :)AutonomousDressagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10326654414307652910noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-24087350536522448522017-03-31T06:42:11.102-07:002017-03-31T06:42:11.102-07:00Your fears aren't lost on me. I have a hard ti...Your fears aren't lost on me. I have a hard time cantering without "adult supervision". Lol hoping to change that at some point because I really need to school my horses when I'm not around a trainer.SpanishWalkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10003578056572686242noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-91560832104786237942017-03-30T18:29:00.207-07:002017-03-30T18:29:00.207-07:00Yeah, I lived there for a while while I was going ...Yeah, I lived there for a while while I was going to college, plus my mom lived there from about 1984 through 2005 or so, off Perring Parkway a couple of blocks north of MSU. These days I reside north of the border in the gloriously beautiful but economically struggling lands of Greater Rednecklandia. :)which_chickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10944558109074440312noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-31006060725484032992017-03-30T18:06:00.138-07:002017-03-30T18:06:00.138-07:00OK I'm sorry for the completely unrelated and ...OK I'm sorry for the completely unrelated and unhorsey comment but... I love you trainers hair!! So much so body! #hairenvy Laur @FMHHhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04978311855305167845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-26039592440301742412017-03-30T15:27:12.982-07:002017-03-30T15:27:12.982-07:00I dreamed that I was at a show and the judge gave ...I dreamed that I was at a show and the judge gave my riding a -2. So yeah, I can relate to the lack of confidence. TeresaAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05311118900077951863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-38616147091133946362017-03-30T14:50:09.190-07:002017-03-30T14:50:09.190-07:00At my old barn we were not allowed to jump outside...At my old barn we were not allowed to jump outside of lesson. Not sure about the new barn but I probably won't L.Williamshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05052638724440787772noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-90384190645091003672017-03-30T13:51:28.710-07:002017-03-30T13:51:28.710-07:00SarahO, that was me too! Agreeing 100% with emma, ...SarahO, that was me too! Agreeing 100% with emma, NOT shameful. Great reminder re: progress...I'm bad at checking something off the list and then being frustrated I haven't reached the next goal.Thttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05438372155463437107noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-91061305756492781142017-03-30T13:47:35.118-07:002017-03-30T13:47:35.118-07:00A deep-spot taker will also help you with jumping ...A deep-spot taker will also help you with jumping ahead. But it might not help you get the balanced seat that is perfect -- you know the one the pros have where they are perfectly with the motion 90% of the time.<br /><br />So I think the solution is a perfect horse who never leaves long and never chips in -- TOTALLY POSSIBLE RITE?Nicolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13834098473974912416noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-1156782232604991352017-03-30T13:44:21.521-07:002017-03-30T13:44:21.521-07:00You could have written the mental aspect of this p...You could have written the mental aspect of this post about me, definitely all things I struggle with. Speaking from my (limited) experience, riding is REALLY hard when you're on a baby and it's quite easy to start to feel like you cannot be trusted to do things unsupervised, because lets be honest, even if you do all the things perfectly right, baby horse might have a baby moment and things get weird anyway :) I watched the video and it looks to me like you're doing an awesome job of making it happen but also being quiet and letting him figure out where his feet go. You both look great, the end of the video looks awesome...look out hunters :)Thttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05438372155463437107noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-63755122023156842842017-03-30T11:25:22.217-07:002017-03-30T11:25:22.217-07:00yea i mean... most horses go better with a pro. th...yea i mean... most horses go better with a pro. that whole.... 'being a pro' thing lol. sadly for charlie, he's not exactly 'pro ride' material (it takes a certain kind of stupid to by a half lame high mileage horse haha) so he's stuck with me. seems like he's doin just fine tho! emmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05686949099663199382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-13271367050117912922017-03-30T11:18:20.978-07:002017-03-30T11:18:20.978-07:00Every single ride on very one of my horses/mule I ...Every single ride on very one of my horses/mule I have the feeling that I'm the problem one in the relationship. I know they could go better with a pro. But they are sadly not owned by pros and I am not rich enough to keep theta a trainer full time. Thus must manage with the owner they have. You're taking lessons, you're doing right by him. As long as you're both having fun, nothing else matters.Olivia @ DIY Horse Ownershiphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16138490796669110523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-23272825532097991452017-03-30T11:14:54.555-07:002017-03-30T11:14:54.555-07:00aw man, that's so frustrating! i can't ima...aw man, that's so frustrating! i can't imagine trying to sell a horse, the whole process is totally alien to me and vaguely uncomfortable. good luck, tho. seriously. hopefully once it's all said and done it'll feel like it went by in a flash!emmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05686949099663199382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-23323784790269956752017-03-30T11:13:17.020-07:002017-03-30T11:13:17.020-07:00yup!! that's exactly my devious plan haha - i ...yup!! that's exactly my devious plan haha - i like my horses to be infinitely patient baby sitters lol ;)emmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05686949099663199382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-51948935564183394162017-03-30T11:12:22.333-07:002017-03-30T11:12:22.333-07:00not being able to take lessons was a challenge for...not being able to take lessons was a challenge for me for a long time too. seriously tho? you should definitely NOT feel ashamed of the canter issues. we all have sticking points, but all that matters is that you're trying and you're working on it. agreed completely that nobody is going to care more than we will, so we might as well enjoy the process!emmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05686949099663199382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-75465594472666535402017-03-30T11:10:54.928-07:002017-03-30T11:10:54.928-07:00if i can say one thing definitively, and one thing...if i can say one thing definitively, and one thing only, you are NOT the only one. my lack of confidence in riding hit me like a ton of bricks when i got back into the saddle after a 4yr post-college hiatus. i didn't expect it at all, but here we are. and it kinda sucks. but i agree 100% with "either soldier through or stay home. so we soldier on." it's worth it tho!<br /><br />also, unrelated, i didn't know you used to live in baltimore! saw your morgan post - i actually grew up right around there, and izzy lives just a couple miles further up the road. small world. emmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05686949099663199382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-60207647391620694802017-03-30T10:38:21.967-07:002017-03-30T10:38:21.967-07:00Yes but now you can work the opposite way. Your ho...Yes but now you can work the opposite way. Your horse is confident and will say, hey mom I got this and then you can gain confidence due to their ability to take on the challenges. :)Alexhttps://thehorsedream.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-2576202588762872222017-03-30T10:06:56.504-07:002017-03-30T10:06:56.504-07:00It's so nice reading this post and all of the ...It's so nice reading this post and all of the comments and realizing that a lot of people struggle with similar stuff. I am totally on that bus too. For me, it's even worse because I am nervous to push the envelope myself with certain things, but I only get a lesson every couple months so that makes for some really, really slow progress. It's the major reason why I STILL can't canter my horse consistently (which brings me so much shame, but that's where we're at). I find it's helpful to focus on enjoying the journey. Really, nobody but ourselves will care if we don't get to point y in x time. AutonomousDressagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10326654414307652910noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-56839182593790933792017-03-30T09:21:07.183-07:002017-03-30T09:21:07.183-07:00Confidence is a hard thing to build and I struggle...Confidence is a hard thing to build and I struggle with fear issues on all manner of things, some of which look like things I should be able to manage without a problem. Hauling the horse trailer is still a white-knuckle affair. Riding along the hard road makes me jittery. (We have logged more than 100 miles of hard road shoulders since the start of 2017.) Jumping jumps, need I say more? I don't know why I have so many fear issues, but ugh. It's either soldier through that stuff or stay home, so I soldier on but I feel like I'm the only one.which_chickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10944558109074440312noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-72056059938611284882017-03-30T08:50:49.475-07:002017-03-30T08:50:49.475-07:00oh man, i'm an absolute video junkie too (in c...oh man, i'm an absolute video junkie too (in case that wasn't super obvious lol). bc yea there are things i see in the video that i didn't notice while riding. or things that felt a certain way while riding that don't look it at all (like in the video of our stadium round from this past weekend were i felt the horse getting strong bc he was pulling on me, but he doesn't look strong at all in the video {tho he is pulling haha}). but yea. the struggle is real and apparently never actually gets easier!emmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05686949099663199382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-88857969228540412762017-03-30T08:49:06.704-07:002017-03-30T08:49:06.704-07:00yea, in many ways that's how it was with my la...yea, in many ways that's how it was with my last mare. we were both kinda learning together. i spend a lot of time trying to instill confidence in the horse tho, bc i need to be able to rely on that when things get messy in my riding (lol), so i guess it's natural that the horse would then feel ready to keep progressing even when i'm not hahaemmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05686949099663199382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-72494119783791820542017-03-30T08:47:46.166-07:002017-03-30T08:47:46.166-07:00lol "HARD PASS" - that's exactly it ...lol "HARD PASS" - that's exactly it haha. it's such a fickle game, this whole confidence thing. but i still remember what it felt like to feel good about things. honestly i felt at my best when i was also at my strongest as a rider. so my hope is that with more practice, and with regaining strength again, things will naturally feel better too. we shall see!emmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05686949099663199382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-64474572813152961282017-03-30T08:22:51.520-07:002017-03-30T08:22:51.520-07:00I could kiss you for posting this. I don't thi...I could kiss you for posting this. I don't think I stopped nodding going, "me too," through reading the whole thing. What is it about horseback riding that makes us overthink so much? Getting older has made "doing the thing" way harder when unsupervised for sure. That's why I like videos so much. I'm all, "he's wild!" Then I see video playback and I'm like, "Oh wait, that's practically a western pleasure lope. My bad."Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-33338443588655554792017-03-30T08:03:29.929-07:002017-03-30T08:03:29.929-07:00I had what I thought was a perfect buyer and at th...I had what I thought was a perfect buyer and at the last minute they backed out. You know, after I had deleted all my sale ads. They were first time buyers, I think they started looking at expenses and got scared. Ughhhh! Susannoreply@blogger.com