tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post3318401396716461582..comments2024-03-26T17:31:58.290-07:00Comments on 'Fraidy Cat Eventing: a lesson to learn, a day to forgetemmahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05686949099663199382noreply@blogger.comBlogger59125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-72421830244515203162018-07-05T05:38:51.883-07:002018-07-05T05:38:51.883-07:00I missed this, I am so sorry the show went so badl...I missed this, I am so sorry the show went so badly but good for you for taking the R instead of getting eliminated or Charlie getting hurt. I had actually hoped to be at that show but didn't realize the entries closed 3 weeks early, and then it worked out for the best anyway. It will get better, Charlie will be much better for your next outing!appydoesdressagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03247747981543003242noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-12870426108005378272018-06-14T10:42:00.555-07:002018-06-14T10:42:00.555-07:00Yea all good possibilities. I will share that we t...Yea all good possibilities. I will share that we took Scout to the open schooling there on Tuesday and he had a very tough time also. He was really "stuck" and my trainer gave her best effort at getting him forward. He stopped a bunch of times for no apparent reason except that he was just not paying attention. When he was going he was jumping brilliantly. So frustrating because you're wondering if heir brain or their body (or both) saying no.Niamhhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12445287419135378606noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-6081736870835187472018-06-12T14:14:24.430-07:002018-06-12T14:14:24.430-07:00Aww man. I'm sorry. The good looked good thoug...Aww man. I'm sorry. The good looked good though! And it's always a process and a challenge and hopefully will get better and better with time. He's a good boy, he maybe just doesn't understand his second career fully yet!nadiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08290914277204973015noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-21817876377097879682018-06-12T11:13:18.403-07:002018-06-12T11:13:18.403-07:00ugh seriously. and it's like, the moment we al...ugh seriously. and it's like, the moment we allow even the littlest slide or regression, suddenly they're thinking the rules have changed and they're free again to do as they please. it can be exhausting! emmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05686949099663199382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-44740332951940756572018-06-12T11:09:33.374-07:002018-06-12T11:09:33.374-07:00I know you have- sometimes I am like 'how many...I know you have- sometimes I am like 'how many times are we going to deal with this f-ing spooking at grass thing?'TeresaAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05311118900077951863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-32509816095417229962018-06-12T06:26:14.642-07:002018-06-12T06:26:14.642-07:00yea i mean, charlie and i have worked through this...yea i mean, charlie and i have worked through this in the past. there was a period where every single ride he would plant his feet and swing his head up in his best "dinosaur stuck in tar pit" routine and refuse to go forward. every. single. ride. sometimes on multiple occasions! and i had to learn to be very very disciplined with him that YES i would do everything in my power to be fair and consistent with him, and ensure that there wasn't anything physical going on. but that there was also a clear firm line on what is not considered acceptable behavior from him. and refusing to go forward was absolutely in that category. we got past that point tho, and things have been so good that i've possibly gotten a little slack in correcting the littlest indiscretions that inevitably lead up to the more extreme events. my bad... vigilance is the name of the game, i suppose. emmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05686949099663199382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-46028748656155845602018-06-12T06:23:21.010-07:002018-06-12T06:23:21.010-07:00ugh yea, sadly we've been kinda using that mom...ugh yea, sadly we've been kinda using that momentum as a crutch already in sticky times, but it only really works when we either have a canter with some speed, or some impulsion. if we've got the impulsion, the spots don't even end up sticky so.... yea. but lacking either, it turns out it's a lot easier for him to put on the brakes than i expected!emmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05686949099663199382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-25025940321762415712018-06-12T06:22:13.779-07:002018-06-12T06:22:13.779-07:00yup! at least with charlie, he's kinda been th...yup! at least with charlie, he's kinda been the opposite of what you say: he's been awesome the vast majority of the time but has shown glimmers of how things can be when he's not feeling quite so awesome. he's generally a pretty reliable guy but i still need to be prepared to pick up the slack (and get a response!) from him when he's not all there.emmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05686949099663199382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-63338200342501762592018-06-12T06:21:01.127-07:002018-06-12T06:21:01.127-07:00oh man, that's never any fun either :(oh man, that's never any fun either :(emmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05686949099663199382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-293917603892588232018-06-12T06:20:44.617-07:002018-06-12T06:20:44.617-07:00ugh yea, "all the bad parts coming out on the...ugh yea, "all the bad parts coming out on the same day" --> YUP that sounds like it haha. definitely sucks, but in a way it's a good reminder that it *is* possible and the horses *aren't* actually unicorns and i need to not ever get complacent. emmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05686949099663199382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-25425726431183486902018-06-12T06:19:39.462-07:002018-06-12T06:19:39.462-07:00thanks ;) and yea i mean, i did honestly consider ...thanks ;) and yea i mean, i did honestly consider not posting as much detail, or as much media but.... ya know. i've always posted my low moments along with the good, even when it kinda sucks and makes me feel bad. bc there's real value in there for me, and i do look back on those posts to try to keep those lessons learned. i'm sure charlie will be fine going forward, it's just a shame that sometimes it's like i need to figure things out the hard way...emmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05686949099663199382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-8630123612467328782018-06-12T05:46:25.377-07:002018-06-12T05:46:25.377-07:00I'm late to this post (sorry). Once you rule o...I'm late to this post (sorry). Once you rule out the physical (and hopefully it is ruled out) then it's down to mental. I am not going to give advice because Charlie and Carmen are very different and plus it's not my place. <br /><br />All that said, I'm going to talk about Carmen and I in case anything resonates (and it may not). In many ways, when I started with Carmen I was not clear enough with her and she figured that she got to decide how the day would go. I'm working through that now (and it popped up in day 2 of the show which i will write about soon). All the emotional stuff aside about partnerships etc, there are times when the horse has to listen to the rider despite their feels. This will keep everyone safe. So maybe he was tired, or would rather be home, or lonely going away from the gate. That behaviour can be fixed and I know you can do it. There are times I don't feel like working either. It seems that Charlie's go to is to get stuck in the mud. Carmen's is to spook and tantrum. It seems that both behaviours come from the same place. <br /><br />Again, likely not useful or new. The good news is that Charlie is still a great horse and this is a blip in the road. TeresaAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05311118900077951863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-15121615032373484202018-06-12T03:18:09.006-07:002018-06-12T03:18:09.006-07:00Such a crappy day. Love your attitude about it, an...Such a crappy day. Love your attitude about it, and it sounds like you've got a plan to work on the struggle parts. Honestly, though, I'm just impressed Mr. managed to stop himself mid jump. Like, you'd think the momentum of that big body would just not be denied. 😂Austenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13004088333430762406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-72716892618137229052018-06-11T19:13:02.567-07:002018-06-11T19:13:02.567-07:00I love how horses give you a glimmer of how awesom...I love how horses give you a glimmer of how awesome they can be... and then make you work your ass off to get it when you want it. This was just another blip on the horse training journey! (Sadly it probably won't be the last!)Gray Flannel Horseshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10798379736435785129noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-59073519163818170682018-06-11T18:57:44.273-07:002018-06-11T18:57:44.273-07:00I'm so sorry, days like this royally suck. I j...I'm so sorry, days like this royally suck. I just had my first few rides back and on the third one, mine decided he no longer walks. So we had an entire lesson learning how to walk again this weekend. Hollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03512501054637565887noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-46384175412162430832018-06-11T18:11:39.955-07:002018-06-11T18:11:39.955-07:00I feels ya on the WTF this is not my “normal” hors...I feels ya on the WTF this is not my “normal” horse… oh wait, it’s just all the bad parts coming out on the same day. This is exactly how I felt at FENCE with Chimi!!!! But the good news is he’s been a rockstar leading up to this so I think you’ll figure out the best course of action moving forward and get the good Charlie back for future events. Just sucks when the bad version of your horse shows up to play at a horse show!!!! But I guess horses keep us humble sooooo yeah. Hope Charlie’s back to his good self soon!!Bee Teahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11225059723348875614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-41227421873384675312018-06-11T17:51:08.930-07:002018-06-11T17:51:08.930-07:00Man, sorry about your no good, very bad show day. ...Man, sorry about your no good, very bad show day. You are a badass for posting about it honestly and completely. I hate the feeling when I know I'm not connecting with my guy, and not knowing which way to go (push more, or retreat a little). You're a very thoughtful owner and rider, so I have no doubt you'll come back even better from this.Ponies and Pugs (Erika)https://www.blogger.com/profile/05968778518446956239noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-29512605848614920092018-06-11T14:57:03.985-07:002018-06-11T14:57:03.985-07:00thanks i'm sure he will! and in the meantime w...thanks i'm sure he will! and in the meantime we might be redrawing some parameters about how sometimes ponies have to go to work even when they don't feel like it. it's supposed to be fun and i need it to be fun, but.... it's also not really cool to be like, "eh, nope, not today!"emmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05686949099663199382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-86312232485231314442018-06-11T14:53:50.418-07:002018-06-11T14:53:50.418-07:00Oh that is so hard! Especially when it feels like ...Oh that is so hard! Especially when it feels like your horse does a 180 the day before a show - it can take a huge toll on your mental state. Sounds like you made the best of a crappy day, and you both will live to fight another day. Hopefully Charlie gets back to a happy kid and decides he wants to play again very soon! Jannaehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00156268032357868460noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-10501673070971084882018-06-11T14:52:56.112-07:002018-06-11T14:52:56.112-07:00yea i remember you writing about that - that was s...yea i remember you writing about that - that was scary! it's pretty safe to say that charlie wasn't colicking haha, he was definitely totally 100% fine in that regard. other than not wanting to go forward away from the trailers, his behavior, attitude, vitals, all that were totally normal. now whether he's sore somewhere? or made himself sore with the awkward and clunky jumps? we're definitely looking into that. emmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05686949099663199382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-85989190833878871402018-06-11T14:50:04.245-07:002018-06-11T14:50:04.245-07:00yea me too, honestlyyea me too, honestlyemmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05686949099663199382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-69328782916308487202018-06-11T14:49:51.827-07:002018-06-11T14:49:51.827-07:00thanks, that is what they say, isn't it haha ;...thanks, that is what they say, isn't it haha ;)emmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05686949099663199382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-60481425019581625262018-06-11T14:42:16.061-07:002018-06-11T14:42:16.061-07:00A couple of years ago at an event Riley and I had ...A couple of years ago at an event Riley and I had a day like this. He was just not himself. I wound up scratching him before jumping and it turns out he had been mildly colicing. I hope you guys get to the bottom of what was bothering Charlie, the helmet cam at the coop is scary!Niamhhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12445287419135378606noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-88165548618488365262018-06-11T14:37:26.171-07:002018-06-11T14:37:26.171-07:00I'm sorry the day didn't go so well.I'm sorry the day didn't go so well. Olivia @ DIY Horse Ownershiphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16138490796669110523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-26592555292032587352018-06-11T13:31:37.748-07:002018-06-11T13:31:37.748-07:00Ugh. Well that just sucks -- I'm sorry you had...Ugh. Well that just sucks -- I'm sorry you had such a rough time! I know though that you have tons of people in your corner to help you through this... it's the part of riding that SUCKS but when you get to the other side (and I know you will!) you'll be so proud of having worked through it. Nothing worth having comes easy and all that Tracy - The Printable Ponyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00990038444473790555noreply@blogger.com