tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post5227516885819919556..comments2024-03-26T17:31:58.290-07:00Comments on 'Fraidy Cat Eventing: the "what if" rabbit holeemmahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05686949099663199382noreply@blogger.comBlogger33125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-6159009079002287572016-06-21T14:52:09.514-07:002016-06-21T14:52:09.514-07:00I'm always down the rabbit hole. Stand by- I&#...I'm always down the rabbit hole. Stand by- I'm emailing you Micaylahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09799043647759779897noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-3256984086801113782016-06-21T05:58:15.532-07:002016-06-21T05:58:15.532-07:00Does the new job bring any new mental stresses to ...Does the new job bring any new mental stresses to your life that weren't there before? Could those affect the whole Isabel stopping thing / your riding in general more than before? In the past 4 years with my two, I find that I can look back and correlate work stresses (and sometimes other personal stresses) directly with behavioral/training issues in the horses. My mental state presented physically by them in some fashion. And nearly every time, it's taken me moving past or rising above the stress to get them back to being solid! Just a random thought after reading this. You and Isabel are a very good team, methinks. This stopping stuff is just a bobble and life will be awesome again really soon!!Liz Stouthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18267806576736655184noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-44029742417990714162016-06-20T11:01:39.174-07:002016-06-20T11:01:39.174-07:00I'm right there with you. The thing I have to...I'm right there with you. The thing I have to keep reminding myself is that I have to let the right thing happen. Sending you all the good vibes no matter the verdict. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-25682279068555297222016-06-20T10:45:53.319-07:002016-06-20T10:45:53.319-07:00I'm actually really happy to hear you opening ...I'm actually really happy to hear you opening up this rabbit hole for yourself. The $900 fb ponyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04123067982715868323noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-82913229864752136262016-06-20T06:46:00.293-07:002016-06-20T06:46:00.293-07:00that is a lot of what ifs...you know we are always...that is a lot of what ifs...you know we are always here to talk if you want to bounce ideas off us!kaitlyndznhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11334903273598072322noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-74752573838223828672016-06-18T16:37:47.336-07:002016-06-18T16:37:47.336-07:00I've gotten more into taking the unknown path ...I've gotten more into taking the unknown path vs the known path lately. I think it's more due to boredom though! I've found that taking chances normally works best for me. I took a chance changing barns and finding a new trainer and it paid off. I know exactly how you feel, especially when it comes to figuring out what to do with your equine partner. Ultimately, you're in a position that really allows you to think about you. I'm a bit envious haha. If I was just leasing, I would have moved on from Fiction some time ago :)Hawkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05303236534507171227noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-44967116148228989332016-06-18T08:06:16.821-07:002016-06-18T08:06:16.821-07:00It is at least a huge benefit that Izzy has a home...It is at least a huge benefit that Izzy has a home, no matter what. You don't have to worry about her ending up in a bad situation *if* you decide to explore other options. Susannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-60833911155448588352016-06-18T02:06:50.588-07:002016-06-18T02:06:50.588-07:00Play the field, wet your feet and see what sticks...Play the field, wet your feet and see what sticksAoifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06324156483692821044noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-79999661952217831692016-06-18T02:06:25.394-07:002016-06-18T02:06:25.394-07:00*hugs*
I don't envy your choices, but as every...*hugs*<br />I don't envy your choices, but as everyone else has said you have the luxury of time so take full advantage. You can basically have the best of all world's as you have your cake and can taste others too ;-)Aoifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06324156483692821044noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-51003994080066348142016-06-17T20:58:24.410-07:002016-06-17T20:58:24.410-07:00Hmmm... it's a tough "spot" to be in...Hmmm... it's a tough "spot" to be in, for sure. I am going through my own "what ifs" as well and it's a difficult place to be in since you cannot see the future... It sure would be helpful tho.Cathrynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15652933884652697666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-55767119690725870142016-06-17T14:30:18.828-07:002016-06-17T14:30:18.828-07:00Okay, but WHAT IF you moved back to Rochester and ...Okay, but WHAT IF you moved back to Rochester and bought Bobby? !!!Carlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17308477892024999793noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-67263728591318673012016-06-17T14:18:41.324-07:002016-06-17T14:18:41.324-07:00The rabbit hole is a dangerous place to be. Just ...The rabbit hole is a dangerous place to be. Just take your time, my mantra has been that if it is meant to be, it will just kind of appear and work itself out. Keep yourself open to options but just keep going on and see what happens. And, of course, vent here with us bc we all understand better than anyone in real life haha!appydoesdressagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03247747981543003242noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-1829752853506983272016-06-17T13:27:08.423-07:002016-06-17T13:27:08.423-07:00It is awesome that you have so many possibilities ...It is awesome that you have so many possibilities but I can totally understand that it is also stressful and confusing. I do think sometimes you can make something seem more real and see how that makes you feel - more excited or more scared? Like, if you look online at horses or go test ride one, hang out at a new barn, etc.<br /><br />When I was thinking about selling Fawkes a friend convinced me to put up an ad saying I didn't have to go through with it if I didn't want to. I expected to freak out when people started calling but all I felt was relief. So for me at least, that helped.MostlyHarmlesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11865756625483953737noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-26379765849952438222016-06-17T13:26:10.657-07:002016-06-17T13:26:10.657-07:00I'd do what you are doing: open to possibiliti...I'd do what you are doing: open to possibilities, but just keepin on keepin on. And yes, it will make you a better horse person ( or at least that's what I tell myself every time this same topic gets brought up in my life ;)Thttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05438372155463437107noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-55668533763741875152016-06-17T12:27:35.578-07:002016-06-17T12:27:35.578-07:00For me, this kind of stuff works if I put a timeli...For me, this kind of stuff works if I put a timeline on it. I've done that before with great success. It prevents me from going farther and farther down a hole just because i'm already on that path<br /><br />Your situation allows you a lot of freedom, use it to make the choice that makes you happiest.Purple Meganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17179696153116063779noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-50948512695726922972016-06-17T12:10:33.786-07:002016-06-17T12:10:33.786-07:00The devil you know... I have similar rabbit hole t...The devil you know... I have similar rabbit hole thoughts, though mine are because I want to change and I want to move. But I think most people do. But just keep doing and just keep riding. Those are the most important things. There were and the what are secondary. Olivia @ DIY Horse Ownershiphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16138490796669110523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-46504147695080496442016-06-17T12:04:06.107-07:002016-06-17T12:04:06.107-07:00Oh my gosh, I love rabbit holes (but I am a total ...Oh my gosh, I love rabbit holes (but I am a total change whore!). I see you getting a big bay draft/thoroughbred cross mare, killing it xc! LandofWOZhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11518323270325094244noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-65419419365272106732016-06-17T11:58:39.106-07:002016-06-17T11:58:39.106-07:00Although it's not the path you had planned, it...Although it's not the path you had planned, it's really wonderful that you have SO MANY options! Take your time in figuring things out, and know that whatever you decide, it doesn't have to be forever!jenjhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01737679332792618499noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-48772843825472183672016-06-17T11:30:32.198-07:002016-06-17T11:30:32.198-07:00This has been a recurring rhetoric among equestria...This has been a recurring rhetoric among equestrian bloggers this year! The path forward is murky... until all of a sudden it's not. One thing I will say is that those who have waited until the right thing to do presented itself have been happy with their choices and have no regrets. <br /><br />So take your time -- there's no rush. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10567094702344719852noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-58897746842183543422016-06-17T11:16:07.027-07:002016-06-17T11:16:07.027-07:00Sometimes we have to let go of things for the new ...Sometimes we have to let go of things for the new things to come....it's never easy! When I had to say goodbye to my childhood mare due to circumstances beyond my control I was heartbroken. But she ended up being the special friend of a little boy who really really needed her and she and the boy went on to have many adventures and win lots of ribbunz! Hugs!!arteriolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14257564748066704707noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-28489921588763726532016-06-17T11:07:58.287-07:002016-06-17T11:07:58.287-07:00There's nothing I can say that helps you make ...There's nothing I can say that helps you make your decision, so hugs and beers instead. :)Austenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13004088333430762406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-42539342336707489332016-06-17T11:04:08.541-07:002016-06-17T11:04:08.541-07:00It is scary, but leaving what is familiar and know...It is scary, but leaving what is familiar and known always is. I've always been one to take a lot of risks. Some haven't worked out, but more have. I was always afraid to wake up one day and realize I had never gone for what I really wanted.<br /><br />Each person is different, but sometimes you have to leave things behind in order to move on to better things. Only you can decide if it is worth the risk :)Shaunahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17348396578251983461noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-78400782678818281962016-06-17T10:36:50.896-07:002016-06-17T10:36:50.896-07:00I'm pretty sure that of late I've been liv...I'm pretty sure that of late I've been living in the rabbit hole... The rabbit hole is a scary place but sometimes it is also a necessary place. At the end of the day it is about what makes you happy. EventingSaddlebredStylehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07610596082916022402noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-46232687931315797382016-06-17T10:26:19.378-07:002016-06-17T10:26:19.378-07:00That's quite the rabbit hole. I leased a nice ...That's quite the rabbit hole. I leased a nice little QH mare for years, and eventually realized I needed to move on. I just knew. Sure it was sad, but I knew it was time. I moved on to Mikey. I knew it was time to move on from Mikey when the flying changes started failing spectacularly- Trainer started mentioning that I should be looking for my second horse, and how to fund my second horse. One to have on deck and ready to go in a couple years, to pick up where I left off with Mikey. I'd never sell Mikey though, and I couldn't afford another horse unless I sold him. I decided I would do what he could do, and beg, borrow, and steal something else on occasion if he couldn't do what I wanted to do. Isabel does have a loving forever home, and I'm sure you'd be more than welcome to come see her and ride her since her owner is far away! The changes you're talking about are scary for sure- new horse, new barn, etc. I was terrified to leave the barn I bought Mikey from- I'd become so reliant on my instructor that I couldn't think for myself. On the plus side, you don't have to do anything right now. You can take however long you want to think it over!Codex Dressagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04736021620789376995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-28414962011452854222016-06-17T10:07:37.905-07:002016-06-17T10:07:37.905-07:00I'm in a big what-if hole myself thinking abou...I'm in a big what-if hole myself thinking about my future as a non grad student making real(ish) money and working somewhere that would also be a 2 hour commute and wondering WHAT THE FUCK I am supposed to do with myself in this situation. And to add horse what ifs on top of that?! Holy shit girl. txtmsg me if you ever wanna chat and/or commiserate because this sucks.Nicolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13834098473974912416noreply@blogger.com