tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post4383365034845596488..comments2024-03-26T17:31:58.290-07:00Comments on 'Fraidy Cat Eventing: the audacity of a planemmahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05686949099663199382noreply@blogger.comBlogger51125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-80805007166311205792017-10-31T17:54:33.959-07:002017-10-31T17:54:33.959-07:00no, izzy was a cross country machine and we were v...no, izzy was a cross country machine and we were very fortunate not to have issues like that on xc. she did begin to have issues with refusals in stadium, at which point i got the help of a trainer who schooled the horse for me to see what might be going on. emmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05686949099663199382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-7743847228257452962017-10-29T08:33:37.994-07:002017-10-29T08:33:37.994-07:00I love planning but I am often a bit too much of a...I love planning but I am often a bit too much of an optimist about the future. Usually about finances. "Oh sure I can afford to show three horses in the summer" etc. And sometimes am not super realistic about attainable goals for my horse. This is a super timely post for me as I'm starting to think about my plans for next year already!KateRosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12870548960430847612noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-74081784083122388242017-10-29T06:17:01.835-07:002017-10-29T06:17:01.835-07:00This post is a great recap and I can't help bu...This post is a great recap and I can't help but think that being an equestrian is an exercise in perseverance and setbacks (in fact, I was just commenting on this exact theme on the blog OTTB and Oxers). You have much to be proud of with your still relatively new partnership with Charlie. And I admire your moxie. As far as my riding goes, I take it day by day and our progress is seriously snail's pace over the three years I've owned Knight. I don't even write about our riding stuff anymore because I fear it's far too boring and remedial. Although we did get a rad counter canter last week which was cool and he knew exactly what I was asking. Jumping--well, my trainer has proclaimed she doesn't think it's really his thing. And so it's a dilemma. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02838778486401326850noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-31202419314926333522017-10-28T14:37:20.518-07:002017-10-28T14:37:20.518-07:00I’m so bad about planning out and registering for ...I’m so bad about planning out and registering for events in advance. We just kind of take it a month at a time but that’s been all we can do lately. Curious about your input since you have experience eventing an Arab...Every time I feel like my Arab and I are finally doing well, the next outing, he acts like he’s never seen an xc jump before. It feels like taking 1 step forward and 2 steps back all the time, and the refusals and falls have really taken a toll on my confidence of being able to get him around a simple course. Did you ever have issues like that with Izzy?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09314905664207830357noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-42774080654292158302017-10-28T13:30:39.137-07:002017-10-28T13:30:39.137-07:00I love this post and I think you really captured w...I love this post and I think you really captured why planning is hard for me. I have a tough time planning without KNOWING how things are going to turn out. I plan things for myself since there's only me and my things to need to figure out but I have a really time planning for riding goals because then I need to try to plan for Katai and I know how many things could change or potentially go wrong. <br /><br />I've been slowly figuring it out (I think) this year but I'm still not that good at it. I'm good at setting big goals (Bronze Medal) and then working toward them with single minded determination but not as good at planning the steps that need to happen to get us there.Piccoloponyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08275679567725425281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-81007117236374828282017-10-28T13:13:03.190-07:002017-10-28T13:13:03.190-07:00I'm a consummate planner, but years of being a...I'm a consummate planner, but years of being a military spouse and having kids has gotten me used to being flexible. I just enjoy planning though, so continue to do it. So cool to see the progression pictures! You guys will get right back out there.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-50431980518093829212017-10-28T06:19:24.361-07:002017-10-28T06:19:24.361-07:00I found your post very timely. I am a crazy planne...I found your post very timely. I am a crazy planner!! And if I can't control a situation which is in my way of things I can control I live in a constant influx of positive happy days where I want to be and total anxiety. I have been told that this is strong type A. Sigh. Love the photos.Kaila Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06467096350652276379noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-62873551448910350742017-10-27T17:11:46.879-07:002017-10-27T17:11:46.879-07:00yea.... honestly when it comes to horses, that cau...yea.... honestly when it comes to horses, that caution is well earned. bc they definitely like to make their own plans, whether we want them to or not. still tho -- i personally strenuously resist letting that deter me from pressing forward. i have a clear idea of where i want to be. and i simply cannot get there without being purposeful about it. so even tho i end up occasionally disappointed or delayed in my pursuits, i continue to endeavor in that direction. emmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05686949099663199382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-57360938782996423442017-10-27T17:10:31.737-07:002017-10-27T17:10:31.737-07:00ughhhhh it's so heartbreaking when things like...ughhhhh it's so heartbreaking when things like that get in the way of our hopes and dreams! i don't think i was following in the days of your previous lease horse, but that sounds like a devastating injury :( i'm so glad to see tho that Rio gets better and healthier every day! we can only hope that charlie follows suit!! bc yep, the planning - i'm hooked to it!!emmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05686949099663199382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-50510900630433654172017-10-27T16:56:23.358-07:002017-10-27T16:56:23.358-07:00I kinda fall in between planning and letting the c...I kinda fall in between planning and letting the chips fall where they may. <br /><br />I like to make goals, but I am cautious of them because a lot of the times it just doesn't work out for whatever reason.Cathrynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15652933884652697666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-33670787675198271932017-10-27T14:59:58.912-07:002017-10-27T14:59:58.912-07:00I've decided we are the same person, and obvio...I've decided we are the same person, and obviously our horses share the same injury with the splint surgery. But ya- I'm a huge planner. Plans make me happy. I had plans with last lease horse, that we just started to actualize when her tore a ligament in his right front. Then I had all sorts of plans with Rio, which turned into one injury after another. BUT- like you said, plans change. I have a new plan now, and although it's frustrating, planning makes me happy so tough cookies!<br /><br /><3 Kelly @ HunkyHanoverianKelly the HnkyHanoverianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18336047158009394408noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-63015466101506182532017-10-27T13:37:24.516-07:002017-10-27T13:37:24.516-07:00ugh yea. i know that feel. it was basically most o...ugh yea. i know that feel. it was basically most of my 2016. when i'm feeling cynical or ironic (or am in a navel-gaving, pensive drunken state....) i call those time periods my "rebuilding phases." still sucks tho.emmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05686949099663199382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-77863847138340645032017-10-27T13:18:44.742-07:002017-10-27T13:18:44.742-07:00I am also so sad you guys didn't get to comple...I am also so sad you guys didn't get to complete your master plan. It was so ambitious and you were both working so hard on it, with great results. Looking forward to a happy and sounder Charlie for you to get started on the plan again!<br /><br />I'm a planner, for sure. I think part of this year for me has been having to come to terms with plans that are completely and irrevocably wrecked. It's really freaking hard.Austenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13004088333430762406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-84893510871610119282017-10-27T12:08:35.052-07:002017-10-27T12:08:35.052-07:00yea i mean, that's fair. as far as actually bo...yea i mean, that's fair. as far as actually booking things on the schedule... yea most places won't even let you commit an entry more than a couple weeks in advance. there's more to planning than that, tho, ya know? and there's more to taking steps to achieve a goal than just booking stuff on the calendar.emmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05686949099663199382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-8276750891685420492017-10-27T12:07:22.710-07:002017-10-27T12:07:22.710-07:00ha yea i mean, it's like we grow up and become...ha yea i mean, it's like we grow up and become independent and hopefully slowly become more and more able to do things exactly as we see fit, and have the means to follow through with our own plans.... only to discover that, oops, yup, we *still* can't actually control life. lol...emmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05686949099663199382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-16063075860888412402017-10-27T12:05:03.277-07:002017-10-27T12:05:03.277-07:00I find that if I plan, my equines will just conspi...I find that if I plan, my equines will just conspire to ruin those plans. So I generally only look a few weeks ahead. Olivia @ DIY Horse Ownershiphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16138490796669110523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-52718883359610159562017-10-27T11:54:56.722-07:002017-10-27T11:54:56.722-07:00The taking in stride thing takes time. I didn'...The taking in stride thing takes time. I didn't have it until I was into my 40's. TeresaAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05311118900077951863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-26963082504564784852017-10-27T11:21:13.797-07:002017-10-27T11:21:13.797-07:00being relaxed and going with the flow is something...being relaxed and going with the flow is something that comes really easy to me..... when it's *NOT* something i care very deeply about. and then... yea. we get more into that regimented, inflexible territory. so... yea, i hear ya lol. emmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05686949099663199382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-10739717359858710532017-10-27T11:18:14.938-07:002017-10-27T11:18:14.938-07:00I'm a compulsive planner by nature but it keep...I'm a compulsive planner by nature but it keeps biting me in the ass, so I'm trying really hard to be more relaxed about things and just go with the flow. How good I am at actually DOING that depends on the day. ;) I too really thrive on having particular goals and a timeline in mind, but I also have the tendency to be inflexible about things because I'm too goal-oriented. That's not a good thing.The $900 fb ponyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04123067982715868323noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-3787585747116760042017-10-27T11:01:25.910-07:002017-10-27T11:01:25.910-07:00ugh yea. i spend a lot of time telling ppl that it...ugh yea. i spend a lot of time telling ppl that it's ok for me to be sad when something i really wanted didn't happen, since a lot of well-intentioned folks are eager to try to whisk away disappointment when they see it. but. ya know. it's healthy to have a reasonably broad spectrum of emotions haha and i'm cool with taking a moment to be sad when a plan dies, so long as i can then take that next step of picking up and moving on. which. obvi like you say, that's the hard part hahaemmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05686949099663199382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-65140846849110935942017-10-27T10:58:23.082-07:002017-10-27T10:58:23.082-07:00Definitely another compulsive planner here. I thin...Definitely another compulsive planner here. I think 2013 in life and then experienced through the blog really helped me learn to be more fluid. Letting go is so, so, fucking hard, but I get a little bit better at it all the time. Taking time to mourn the dead plan though is also important and part of the process.L.Williamshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05052638724440787772noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-58836313998815265512017-10-27T10:52:09.211-07:002017-10-27T10:52:09.211-07:00yay for getting the brain juices flowing!!! in fai...yay for getting the brain juices flowing!!! in fairness tho i can be a crazy insane planner about nearly anything - it doesn't have to be competition focused. i happen to be zeroed in on horse shows tho bc i friggin love them and bought charlie with the specific intention of turning him into my show horse. so.... thus the heavy focus on that particular element here. really tho, the plan could be for anything - even just developing our horses into fun all-round partners!emmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05686949099663199382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-12438135439305064622017-10-27T10:40:55.610-07:002017-10-27T10:40:55.610-07:00Thanks for making me think, Emma! We're defini...Thanks for making me think, Emma! We're definitely on a slow train to who knows where at my house, but I think I am finally ready to have some real goals back in my life again, after two years of not competing due to various things. Maybe, just maybe, I'm feeling brave enough to make plans!TheFoxRiderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01291735157875155200noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-77070628876251436212017-10-27T08:49:59.126-07:002017-10-27T08:49:59.126-07:00thanks for reaching out, Katie! email has been sen...thanks for reaching out, Katie! email has been sent -- tho if you don't get it (in case i somehow goofed the email address) you can also reach me at fraidycat.eventing at gmail. emmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05686949099663199382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-70036932829281345922017-10-27T08:49:10.341-07:002017-10-27T08:49:10.341-07:00ugh yea i keep reminding myself of the same things...ugh yea i keep reminding myself of the same things again and again and again. i think it's just part of having an important chapter in our lives close before we were ready for it -- it's so easy to fall into the trap of second guessing ourselves and wondering how things might have gone differently! but yea. it is what it is and we just keep on pluggin away! yea tho... 2017 has maybe been tough in some ways, hasn't it? my 2016 was definitely the pits comparatively speaking but this year has certainly had its challenges too!emmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05686949099663199382noreply@blogger.com