tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post3151899663790478588..comments2024-03-26T17:31:58.290-07:00Comments on 'Fraidy Cat Eventing: picking up the piecesemmahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05686949099663199382noreply@blogger.comBlogger40125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-15979847012931176162018-07-14T18:50:10.037-07:002018-07-14T18:50:10.037-07:00RT ^^ everyone losing forward 'cause uh, we...RT ^^ everyone losing forward 'cause uh, we're on that train too.<br /><br />Mostly how did NOBODY comment on the fact that you did a 30' line in ONE STRIDE? WTF Charlie. Thank god I didn't ride that, I would have been eating dirt.Hollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03512501054637565887noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-54795391558771682812018-07-12T11:28:05.807-07:002018-07-12T11:28:05.807-07:00So happy to read (and watch) this! I'm sure I&...So happy to read (and watch) this! I'm sure I'll be encountering the forward issue frequently as I get back into the swing of things haha. But man, once Charlie got locked on, he looked awesome! Liminal Lizzyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06645343664339371495noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-20741674981417786122018-07-11T07:00:15.566-07:002018-07-11T07:00:15.566-07:00While my horse had more gymnastic ways of evading ...While my horse had more gymnastic ways of evading work (i.e. spook/spin/leap/bolt), the answer to it is the same: ride more effectively. sigh. But damn Charlie looks amazing over those jumps and undeniably loving it!LandofWOZhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11518323270325094244noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-24395960138719718522018-07-10T21:43:54.091-07:002018-07-10T21:43:54.091-07:00Did everyone in the blogosphere lose forward in th...Did everyone in the blogosphere lose forward in their horses? It seems like a lot of us are struggling with the GO FORTH GOOD PONY SIR/MADAM. <br />Blah. I can say 100% I feel ya and I am marching to the beat of the same damn drum at the moment. I too neglected the horse for the better part of a week bc part of me just didn't wanna deal with it yet, haha. It's frustrating and hard, and it hits ya right in the gut bc forward is such a basic concept it feels silly we skirted over it (bc lord knows I did!).<br /><br />Remember this tho; the wheel never stops turning and we will always continue to go onwards and upwards!Cathrynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15652933884652697666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-87423173669781957742018-07-10T17:18:09.382-07:002018-07-10T17:18:09.382-07:00lol yea it was certainly a lot of ground poles! lu...lol yea it was certainly a lot of ground poles! luckily charlie's got a fair amount of experience with grids and gymnastics, so that really helps!emmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05686949099663199382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-2704792256799261212018-07-10T17:17:47.340-07:002018-07-10T17:17:47.340-07:00lol i love the "plus 1" vs "plus 7&...lol i love the "plus 1" vs "plus 7" analogy - that's a great way to describe it, and basically exactly what i'm trying to do in my whole "skipping the progression" thing. bc yea we've just got this slow escalation of dullness and stubbornness lol. so my plan is to basically catch charlie by surprise and remind him that, actually, it's of critical importance that he clues in to me promptly, thanksverymuch!emmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05686949099663199382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-60970909806438706312018-07-10T16:53:52.159-07:002018-07-10T16:53:52.159-07:00Hero's brain would fall out with all those pla...Hero's brain would fall out with all those placing poles! Glad that you guys were back in the groove by the end of the lesson!Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09066327510880156537noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-65541193009758322032018-07-10T15:46:20.598-07:002018-07-10T15:46:20.598-07:00He looks wonderful in the video, I think!
My trai...He looks wonderful in the video, I think!<br /><br />My trainer has helped me with a very similar situation because B is also a fan of the "let's not move today" game, and I can be a bit too lenient with my expectations and it doesn't do either of us any favours.<br /><br />She describes it as the plus 1 scenario.<br /><br />If B and I are both constantly increasing our intensity by plus 1 (him into not moving and me into moving) we will stay there forever slowly fighting with each other.<br /><br />Ask for the plus 1 on my end and if he tries to plus one me I give him a plus seven haha.Eventer In Progresshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01188223824498672612noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-55330145984396941282018-07-10T13:24:36.829-07:002018-07-10T13:24:36.829-07:00lol these 9yos like to think they know everything,...lol these 9yos like to think they know everything, don't they?!? but like, c'mon, dammit! it shouldn't be such a challenge to get these OTTBs just going forward! hopefully your jump lesson shows the value of all your recent work!emmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05686949099663199382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-24313890533733341872018-07-10T13:23:40.692-07:002018-07-10T13:23:40.692-07:00thanks! and agreed, playing bad cop is DEFINITELY ...thanks! and agreed, playing bad cop is DEFINITELY not my favorite. i just keep hoping that charlie figures it out asap. he's a clever horse and will quickly learn the rules if i'm consistent enough. the trouble is that the moment i give an inch, he knows that inch is always there for the taking....emmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05686949099663199382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-51514143712631207182018-07-10T13:22:32.714-07:002018-07-10T13:22:32.714-07:00yea that's definitely it - charlie's sorta...yea that's definitely it - charlie's sorta realized that while maybe it's kinda fun most of the time, he maybe doesn't always feel like it when i do too. and like, we've had so much inconsistency with past injuries and whatnot that maybe he got used to the occasional time off and was surprised when that hadn't happened recently? idk. but yea, it's definitely funny how once they grow up a bit and feel like the finally know all the answers, they might start thinking like "eh but maybe i know better than my rider!"emmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05686949099663199382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-18234035809619301902018-07-10T13:20:54.784-07:002018-07-10T13:20:54.784-07:00ugh yea i've definitely ridden those horses th...ugh yea i've definitely ridden those horses that you sorta have to get through that hump at the beginning of every ride. definitely annoying. that's just how some of them are tho. with charlie i'm trying to convince him that it has to happen tho. bc right now it's not really just a "beginning of the ride" thing - it's every time we start up after a break, or whenever he thinks he should be done. or like and plantation when he just straight up didn't wanna, and quit on me on the cross country course. so we've really got to get this figured out if he's gonna have any chance at being successful in his job lol!emmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05686949099663199382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-5361469224732756132018-07-10T13:18:35.893-07:002018-07-10T13:18:35.893-07:00ha thanks! it's crazy with charlie bc my worri...ha thanks! it's crazy with charlie bc my worries about fence size or whatever have completely melted away. it's so easy for him, and he's literally so much easier (omg) to ride to a larger fence than a small fence now that he actually knows what he's doing... so that helps! but yea man. we really sure do spend a lot of time riding that ugly...emmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05686949099663199382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-65095011356985322512018-07-10T13:17:34.755-07:002018-07-10T13:17:34.755-07:00yea i mean the reality is that very few horses wou...yea i mean the reality is that very few horses would choose on their own to "go to the gym," as it were, and put in all this work and practice. like, sure many enjoy the act of galloping around and jumping things but sometimes the schooling is.... less fun for them. i get it. but. ya know. it's kiiiiinda important. so we work through it!emmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05686949099663199382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-13629643727521251312018-07-10T13:11:46.836-07:002018-07-10T13:11:46.836-07:00Perhaps there's something about being a 9-year...Perhaps there's something about being a 9-year-old "Murray" right now, because mine has been getting the EXACT same lesson. This week I will have my first jump lesson since we started reprogramming the forward aid, and I'm excited to see how it works out!Nicolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13834098473974912416noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-91747450690934382272018-07-10T12:59:44.292-07:002018-07-10T12:59:44.292-07:00The first two or three years with Bridget were all...The first two or three years with Bridget were all about just reinforcing the rules and not accepting less, over and over, every time we upped the difficulty or she got bored. "Yes, you are here to work. Yes, it's easiest to just do the work" Feeling like you're playing bad cop most days isn't much fun, but it really does pay off. You are both looking fantastic!Thttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05438372155463437107noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-90794987040371240562018-07-10T12:40:32.671-07:002018-07-10T12:40:32.671-07:00Charlie looks GREAT! I am so happy to read this p...Charlie looks GREAT! I am so happy to read this post and see the videos!! <3 I think all horses plateau in their training or just start to suddenly realize, oh wait, this is hard and nah thanks. It sounds like you are finding a good balance for him with the zero tolerance (that is where I am now with Ellie as she is much more grown up than she was a few months ago and she's like SRSLY MOM (eye roll) like a teenage girl lol) and with using the placing poles to make him think more about the smaller jumps instead of tuning them out. You've got this!!! Clover Ledge Farmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03980479474173795906noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-8281775022818591552018-07-10T11:46:19.022-07:002018-07-10T11:46:19.022-07:00I'm with you 100%! Gavin isn't the most f...I'm with you 100%! Gavin isn't the most fun of horses to ride. He is almost always a grump before a ride, and almost always requires to be made to be forward for the first 15 minutes, after which he's just golden. To be fully honest, he's always been this way and I've had him for 8 years. I try not to take it personally - he pulls the same shit on everyone - but it's not the most fun thing to endure every ride. HOWEVER (and I think you experienced this side as well) - once they figure out that it's easier to work with you than against you, it is just a freaking joy. I'm glad to hear he's feeling good! You guys look great! Erikahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04862898176284766826noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-68137882957317953082018-07-10T11:22:18.533-07:002018-07-10T11:22:18.533-07:00Sometimes training is a real slog with that nitty ...Sometimes training is a real slog with that nitty shit but its sooooo important (as you know). "Riding the ugly" You guys sure are jumping nice and big! :D Glad you got that awesome feeling back!L.Williamshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05052638724440787772noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-24897767054559025732018-07-10T11:03:41.157-07:002018-07-10T11:03:41.157-07:00It looks like what you've been doing has been ...It looks like what you've been doing has been working well for you two tho. He certainly was much more like his old self towards the end! The zero tolerance is hard because you don't WANT to do that every time - just as you said - but in the end I definitely agree that it teaches the horse well and the relationship improves because of it. I think you're doing great tho, and Charlie is looking so fit and so fine <3 Mandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14485570296592298816noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-59293969262078037372018-07-10T08:45:48.654-07:002018-07-10T08:45:48.654-07:00yup, that's so true. sometimes i wish it didn&...yup, that's so true. sometimes i wish it didn't take a big setback or problem to make me more focused.... but unfortunately sometimes i really do just need a serious kick in the pants... for me, the part that i always work really really hard to remember is that it ISN'T personal. like, it can feel personal bc i pour so much of myself into horses and riding. but charlie doesn't know that - he's not trying to be bad. he's just testing the limits, and it's up to me to give him those boundaries like you say, and help him operate successfully within them. emmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05686949099663199382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-52632675842430982982018-07-10T08:19:47.739-07:002018-07-10T08:19:47.739-07:00Not that you wrote this or me...but damn I needed ...Not that you wrote this or me...but damn I needed to read a post like this today!! First, I'm glad Charlie is sound and things are moving forward with you getting your love back. You both look very happy by the end of the lesson. Zero Tolerance is a thing I am learning and it took me getting pissed off to put it into practice. I need to learn that I can still be fair to the horse while being firm and honestly its a lot like my kiddo...firm b boundaries and clear consequences may sound mean at first but make for a much happier household in the long run. Sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14327169584564761073noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-63103500452676845692018-07-10T08:17:09.417-07:002018-07-10T08:17:09.417-07:00ugh yea, that's kinda what it was like riding ...ugh yea, that's kinda what it was like riding that little mare velvet last weekend. like, why can't you just be calm tho????emmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05686949099663199382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-69062053661777842922018-07-10T08:09:51.068-07:002018-07-10T08:09:51.068-07:00I had constant chill the f out rides for the first...I had constant chill the f out rides for the first few years with Phantom. So frustrating!Gray Flannel Horseshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10798379736435785129noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-932439930694780998.post-58271958012319166322018-07-10T07:39:35.265-07:002018-07-10T07:39:35.265-07:00lol yea placing poles are definitely not my favori...lol yea placing poles are definitely not my favorite either. like, theoretically i understand that they're supposed to help, and that i should basically just ignore them and let the horse do his thing.... but... ya know... sometimes they're just overwhelming lol. luckily charlie doesn't seem to care much (or, uh, maybe it would be better if he cared *more*!)emmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05686949099663199382noreply@blogger.com